THE RYAN GOSLING EFFECT
Women don’t like Ryan Gosling because he’s Ryan Gosling. They don’t know Ryan Gosling. For all they know, he can be a complete douche bag in real life. He can be an unfaithful arrogant asshole and if you just got mad because I said that, it proves my point. Your protective instincts are flaring because you think you know him. What you are attracted to is his persona, the characters he chooses to play. Whether he’s a conflicted lover, drug addicted teacher, or a stunt car driver with a heart of gold and a hammer in his hand, there is one common factor in his characters. Vulnerability. He chooses roles that display a tremendous amount of vulnerability. And THIS is what you are attracted to, the combination of masculinity and vulnerability. Then when you hear that he broke up a fight on the streets of New York or helped out a homeless man, which many men do daily, the image you have of him from the movies combined with his heroic activity on the streets only cements all the blanks you’ve filled in. He goes from unicorn to strong horse and your crush grows. He is real!
The Ryan Gosling Effect is a direct measure of how thirsty women are for a man who is truthful with himself, has the ability to display transparency without seeking validation or approval, a man that can protect you but also cry in front of you. Men, if you are reading this, this combination is peanut butter and chocolate. Not oil and water. It takes courage to be this way and this kind of courage can be rare, which is why women are swooning over this Hollywood actor.
If all women wanted was a handsome face and a cape, this post would be titled The Ryan Reyolds Effect.